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Affirmation technique has been used by many successful people for centuries. It has helped many ordinary people achieved extraordinary results in their lives. It has turned many failures into successes. It has made many miracles in the history of human revolution. However, majority of the people who have used affirmation find it is not working. Why is this case? What are the elements that people have missed out when they use the affirmation techniques? I constantly ask myself these questions, and seek for the answers. The result is no one book gives the compete answers. Some tips given in this book work for this specific situation, and not for other situation. Another books give other tips work for other situation, but not for this. I have tested and filtered out the ineffective ones, and left only what I call the ultimate secrets for effective technique.
The purpose of affirmation:
Before I give you the effective techniques, I must make you understand the true purpose of affirmation. Simply stated, the purpose of affirmation is to pass a command from the conscious mind to the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind has this ability, if anything it accept as true, it will do whatever it takes to turn it into reality. The affirmation is to pass a message to the subconscious mind, and let it believe the message is true. So this brings to the first element of an effective affirmation.
1. The affirmation must be believable to the subconscious mind
Most of the affirmation the people used fail at this first stage. They tend to give an unrealistic message to the subconscious mind, and hope they can get response. If you are financially broke, you say to yourself "I earn $100,000 per year." is this believable to your mind? If your body is totally out of shape, you say to yourself "I am very attractive", is this believable to your mind? I doubt it. What if you are currently broke, and you want to make $100,000 per year? What if you are out of shape, and you want to make yourself attractive? I find the best and easiest way is to use the word "I choose" in your affirmation Instead of saying "I earn $100,000 per year." Now say "I choose to earn $100,000 per year" Instead of saying "I am very attractive" Now say "I choose to feel that people find me attractive" Do you feel the differences?
2. The subconscious mind seeks for proof
There is a misconception that the affirmation must be repeated thousands of times before it could be installed in the subconscious mind. This is not necessarily true. You can use the repetition method to embed your affirmation, but there is an easier way. It is at the time you find the proof, state your affirmation. Many people stay in poverty is because they had associated pain to money. Whenever they spend their money, they will think of their bills, loans etc. This will automatically lead to ultimate pain. It is the feeling you attached to money makes you rich or poor. How can we turn this into our advantage? Instead of feeling pain to spend money, what if we associate pleasure to it. Next time when you go out for shopping, at the moment you take out your money or credit card, say this affirmation to yourself "I always have more than enough to spend." See how you will feel. This works because the subconscious mind sees the proof. As long as you have some money left in your pocket, this affirmation is always true, so the subconscious mind will believe. How about we combine the first and second methods together and make an affirmation like this " I choose feel that I am always have more than enough to spend." Say this at the time you spend your money. See how you feel. You don't have to repeat it thousands of times, a few times of real life proof will make your subconscious mind believes.
3. The affirmation must trigger feelings
A fact about the subconscious mind is that it does not speak in words, you can only communicate with it through feelings, emotions. There are two methods that you can use to trigger your feelings. First method is to use words that involve feelings. Words like "fun, enjoyable, comfortable, delightful" will work effectively. Second method is to use imagination. Visualizing the situation stated in your affirmation already comes true. See yourself in that situation and feel the feelings. ( I will give more details for effective visualization in my future articles, stay tuned)
4. The affirmation must obey the 3 Ps factors
The 3 Ps are positive, present tense, and personal. Affirmations must be stated positively, instead of saying "I am not fat", say "I choose to stay slim". The reason for this is that before the mind knows the meaning of I am not fat, it must think of what fat means first. So saying that statement will inevitably leads to the feeling of being fat. Affirmations must be in present tense. Many books have mentioned this. However, I only agree to some extend. If you say "I have a luxury car", your mind will not believe you. The reason I include this P here is that once it combined with the first technique, it will work perfectly. Now say " I choose to have a luxury car". Your mind will do its best to bring it into reality. Affirmation must be personal. Your subconscious mind only work for you, not for others. If you say "Ann loves me", it will not effective, because you have no any control on Ann. Now say "I choose to feel that Ann really loves me". This time you are in control, because you can control your own feelings.
5. Personal development affirmation should be stated in comparative
"I am confident" may not be as effective as "I am becoming more and more confident" A even better affirmation could be "I choose to feel more and more confident" The reason to use comparative is because there is no end to how much confident you should become. You mind may think you are already confident enough, and it will not need to do any more work.
These 5 techniques are the most effective ones that I have found from my research on affirmation. If you can use all the 5 techniques, I guarantee your results will be amazing. Even you only use one or two techniques stated here, you will find your affirmations become far more effective.
Copyright 2004 Song Chengxiang
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